Scholarship News

Dealing with Helicopter Parents in College


September 8, 2011
by Kayla Herrera

When I first left for college, my mother called me every single day for the entire fall semester and half of spring semester. I understood why (I was the first child to ever leave) but when I had issues with the campus newspaper, my parents tried to butt in and fight my arguments for me...from six hours away. Now, as a fourth-year college student, I’m still hearing that I need to get my life together, to stop living day to day and plan the future, to date someone else, to move to a different apartment, et cetera. In the course of four years, nothing has changed.

When I first left for college, my mother called me every single day for the entire fall semester and half of spring semester. I understood why (I was the first child to ever leave) but when I had issues with the campus newspaper, my parents tried to butt in and fight my arguments for me...from six hours away. Now, as a fourth-year college student, I’m still hearing that I need to get my life together, to stop living day to day and plan the future, to date someone else, to move to a different apartment, et cetera. In the course of four years, nothing has changed.

How do you even begin to deal with helicopter parents like these? The first thing I would recommend is sit them down and talk to them in person. If you can’t find a time over break, do it over Skype. It’s the next best thing to a phone call – even better, actually, because they will be able to see the seriousness in your eyes and body language.

You want to ease into this discussion gently, so start with the positives. Tell them how much you appreciate everything they’ve done for you and how great it is to have them as parents before telling them some changes need to be made. Explain your concerns using clear examples and ask that they do not interrupt you until you’ve stated your case. Then, a discussion can be had. Just stay calm and positive...and don’t get lippy! If your parents are unwilling to bend, then settle for a compromise. Surprise them by suggesting a mature settlement – even then they can't ignore that maybe you have grown up a little.

Unfortunately, I am still trying to make my parents realize I am 21 years old with two jobs, a 15-credit load and a life of my own. The progress is slow but hopefully these tips will help you make your parents realize their little boy or girl is all grown up and they no longer need to hover overhead.

In addition to being a Scholarships.com virtual intern, Michigan Tech student Kayla Herrera is a media coordinator for the Michigan Tech Youth Programs, a writer for The Daily News in Iron Mountain, Mich., and a writer for Examiner.com. She love a tantalizing, action-packed video game and can't get enough of horror movies (Stephen King's books always have her in their grip, though she prefers the old over the new). Writing is what she has always done, and that is what she is here to do.

College is expensive, Scholarships.com is completely free. Pay for your college education with as much free college scholarship money as possible. By applying to all the awards you qualify for, you can be sure to not miss a single opportunity in paying for your college expenses - including tuition, fees, room and board. Get matched to college scholarships instantly and start applying today by conducting a free college scholarship search at Scholarships.com.

ADVERTISEMENT

Discuss

Share your thoughts and perhaps thousands of students will benefit from your unique insight on the subject!



If you can read this, don't touch the following fields


 
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
There are a lot of scholarships out there, some more conventional than others. Last time, we discussed a scholarship for students interested in becoming part of the chicken industry, but even that scholarship is far from the weirdest. There are some scholarships out there that have unusual criteria, to say the least. It may be based on something totally out of your control, like your height or last name. It may be awarded on how much you like a card game, or to whomever comes up with the most creative way to use a household product. It may even be for students interested in… potatoes? No joke, these five scholarships are some of the weirder ones on our site. Are you weird enough to apply?

Scholarships.com's Weird Scholarships Part Two

January 21, 2021 3:05 PM
by Izzy Hall
There are a lot of scholarships out there, some more conventional than others. Last time, we discussed a scholarship for students interested in becoming part of the chicken industry, but even that
There are scholarships for everything on Scholarships.com; for every major, every community and every kind of student. In fact, we even offer a scholarship for students interested in the chicken industry.

A Scholarship for Chicken?

January 19, 2021 10:16 AM
by Izzy Hall
There are scholarships for everything on Scholarships.com; for every major, every community and every kind of student. In fact, we even offer a scholarship for students interested in the chicken
Southern New Hampshire University plans to cut tuition costs by 50% beginning next fall. This deep tuition price cut is a silver lining to the economic pressure the coronavirus pandemic has put on students and their family’s ability to pay for college. SNHU says that making college accessible and affordable to a wider range of students is its primary goal in slashing tuition prices.

College to Offer Half Price Tuition for Fall 2021

January 7, 2021 10:44 AM
by Izzy Hall
Southern New Hampshire University plans to cut tuition costs by 50% beginning next fall. This deep tuition price cut is a silver lining to the economic pressure the coronavirus pandemic has put on
January is all about what’s new at Scholarships.com! From our new homepage to our fresh January scholarship offerings, we’re ready to explore all of what 2021 has to offer. Number one on our 2021 list? These fantastic January scholarships! A lot of scholarships open on January 1st and many have January 31st deadlines. Start your new year off right and get cracking on these eight scholarship opportunities before they’re gone!

New Year, New You, New Scholarships

January 5, 2021 1:27 PM
by Izzy Hall
January is all about what’s new at Scholarships.com! From our new homepage to our fresh January scholarship offerings, we’re ready to explore all of what 2021 has to offer. Number one on our 2021
We’re all looking forward to finally putting 2020 behind us on New Year’s Day. Though we could not have guessed what 2020 would bring us just a year ago, we can look towards the future year with a little more hope in our hearts – as well as take a look at some great scholarship opportunities that will come due during the upcoming months! Athletes, animal lovers, artists and writers – there’s a scholarship opportunity here for you to put on your 2021 calendar. Let’s ring in the new year with a list of great scholarships to start applying to today!

Look Ahead: Our 2021 Scholarship Preview

December 29, 2020 3:10 PM
by Izzy Hall
We’re all looking forward to finally putting 2020 behind us on New Year’s Day. Though we could not have guessed what 2020 would bring us just a year ago, we can look towards the future year with a
A free scholarship search at Scholarships.com can hook you up with so many options to win free financial aid towards college costs. There are quick and easy scholarships, essay scholarships, and even scholarships based on artistic portfolios and musical performances. When juggling scholarship applications, college apps, and high school classes, students may want to know – which scholarships should they apply for first? Let our guide on how to prioritize scholarship applications help get you organized.

Guide to Prioritizing Scholarship Applications

December 17, 2020 2:23 PM
by Izzy Hall
A free scholarship search at Scholarships.com can hook you up with so many options to win free financial aid towards college costs. There are quick and easy scholarships, essay scholarships, and even
HBCU Heroes, a non-profit organization dedicated to providing Historically Black College and University (HBCU) students and schools with scholarships and resources, is hosting a charity Esports tournament on Wednesday, December 16th. Rather than a tip-off on a basketball court, pro athletes and gamers will compete on the virtual courts of NBA2K. A planned $50,000 will be awarded in scholarships, prizes and collegiate Esports lab funding to HBCUs.

Charity Raises Money for HBCUs with Esports Tournament

December 15, 2020 11:34 AM
by Izzy Hall
HBCU Heroes, a non-profit organization dedicated to providing Historically Black College and University (HBCU) students and schools with scholarships and resources, is hosting a charity Esports
Tonight is the first night of Hanukkah, the eight-day festival of lights celebrated each winter by Jewish families. During Hanukkah, menorahs are lit, latkes are fried, dreidels are spun and chocolate coins are eaten. If you’re celebrating Hanukkah this year, take some time to apply to these eight Jewish scholarships – one for each night! You’ll give yourself a chance to win a “present” of free financial aid for college.

Celebrate Hanukkah with Eight Jewish Scholarships

December 10, 2020 1:48 PM
by Izzy Hall
Tonight is the first night of Hanukkah, the eight-day festival of lights celebrated each winter by Jewish families. During Hanukkah, menorahs are lit, latkes are fried, dreidels are spun and