"Can I Get Your Advice on Something?"

The reality is, children often go to their parents for advice already knowing the decision they would make even if their parents’ decision doesn’t agree with theirs- so watch out. If your child comes to you asking if they should join a fraternity or sorority, they are interested in pledging or have already received a bid from at least one house. If you let your child know the typical expectations in Greek fraternity and sorority life, which revolve around heavy drinking and excessive partying, it may not sit well with them. They may even join to spite you. Responding with “I never pledged so I’m not entirely sure. Tell me why you’re interested” is optimal because you’re not passing judgment and are gauging their curiosity at the same time. This won’t work if your child knows you were a Kappa Sigma, of course, so tell them what your experience was like – positive or negative – and let them choose their path from there. If you loved going Greek, maybe they will too- but if your time was less than perfect, being honesty without malice or critical judgement could be a key factor in your child’s final choice.

For some unsolicited advice: You are responsible for your child’s existence on this planet but if they don’t directly ask you what your opinion is, don’t offer it. Doing so will make you seem meddlesome or wary of your child’s decision-making skills and it’s likely that it will prevent your child from coming to you for advice at all. When in doubt, trying listening without response unless you truly feel your child’s decision could threaten their safety or jeopardize their future.

Last Reviewed: May 2017

Latest College & Financial Aid News

Scholarships for the American Dream

May 26, 2017

by Susan Dutca

As we celebrate Memorial Day by honoring and remembering those who died while serving our country, we explore what it means to be American. In light of this, we've come up with a list of scholarships for Americans, based on a variety of criteria. Here you'll find free college scholarships for American citizens, college scholarships for ethnic-Americans, free college scholarships for veterans/military scholarships, and more! If you're proud to be an American and believe in the American dream – whatever that may entail, then check out these patriotic college scholarships for 2017 and help fund your American dream: [...]

Department of Education Seeking Single Loan Servicer

May 23, 2017

by Susan Dutca

The U.S. Department of Education will offer a contract to a single loan servicer to manage its $1.2 trillion student loan portfolio, which contains over 43 million borrowers. Instead of keeping its current contract with four different services, the ED will award Navient, GreatNet or the Pennsylvania Higher Education Assistance Agency (PHEAA) the contract. What exactly does this mean for borrowers? [...]

Private Colleges Offering Free College Scholarships, Grants, & Discounts at Historic Levels in 2017

May 16, 2017

by Susan Dutca

The chances of getting into a private college at a significantly discounted price are fairly high these days, according to a new report by the National Association of College and University Business Officers. But have students always paid those crazy expensive college tuition costs? [...]

Follow Us:

facebook twitter rss feed